It’s been almost a year since I dyed my hair. I wanted to see my natural hair color again. I wanted to proudly display any grey hairs that came, with beauty and grace. I fantasized that it would make me look sophisticated, and slightly sexy perhaps.
It makes me look fucking old.
I get mixed reviews. My mother tells me it looks like shit. My husband keeps offering to dye my hair for me, with the joke that I can sleep with my hairdresser afterwards. My daughter doesn’t give a damn either way, and my aunt says it looks just lovely.
I didn’t realize until the other day when I put my hair back in a pony tail. The top of my head literally glittered. There are so many of them!
It has gotten out of control, and I know I need to do it. I bought the box a couple of weeks ago. But for some reason I keep stalling. I probably should do it today. My Ortho doctor is a man, so shouldn’t I look my best? I haven’t really cared the last few months what I look like. This would be a step in the right direction. But how unattractive is grey hair, really?
I will put it up to a vote. Should I stay “Au Natural” or just say screw it and dye it?
You should do whatever makes you most comfortable. Sounds like you’re leaning toward dying it. Nothing wrong with that! I’m going “au natural”! Lol
I am leaning…you look good au natural tho!
How does one say “screw and dye” without sounding … well rude?
I think there is time enough to have grey hair when you are old. You are clearly still a young woman and far too young to have grey hair. Of course others would say I am pandering to some stereotypical view of beauty blah, blah, blah but .. well as I said in the start. : )
I am not that old..but old enough to have them.
I say dye it! You can change as you want to. Although I’m a bit crazy when it comes to my hair, so just an opinion
Yes, I used to do that when I was younger. Now I would stick with brown.
I tried going natural. Emphasis on “tried.” I got so disgusted with how much gray I have that I gave up and got it colored. Now I wear slightly funky highlights and I think my hair looks fab. I say go for it. If you really don’t like it, it’ll fade soon enough.
Yeah, sometimes when we try, we fail. Thanks for your honest answer!
Au naturel. Always. But it’s not just about the colour of your hair, it’s about accepting the changes we go through as we get older. I struggle with this too. Woman have far more pressure on them to look a certain way, but see Hilary Clinton looks like she’s got fed up with the whole dog and pony show. If you’re surrounded by people who think you ought to dye your hair, it makes it more difficult to stand your ground. We are so used to seeing people with dyed hair and doing every f*cking thing to make themselves look younger than they really are, we’ve forgotten what it looks like for a middle aged woman to have greying hair. If every woman in the western world stopped dying their hair at once, then we’d have a better idea what it is we are supposed to look like and what to expect, and it wouldn’t look so odd and “unnatural”.
You are right. There is so much pressure to look younger, fresher…I feel somewhat pressured, but I know that even if I decide to keep it the way it is, my husband will still find me attractive. Also, the hair dye doesn’t last a month before the little bastards come popping out again. The cycle would start all over. Thank you for your view on this.
I say pick a fun color and go for it. I hid my blonde with my new color (and subsequently my glittery bits) just for a change. Someone at work told me they were glad I’d covered the grey. (Wth?) told them I didn’t mind … She said “we minded”. Lol! Good thing she’s a friend.
Damn that is harsh!! Even from a friend!! LOL Thanks for your vote.
I say embrace the gray and be natural. Getting older is good, own it! But that’s just me, you have to do what you’re comfortable with. But there’s nothing wrong with gray, and nothing wrong with getting older.
I like these answers from men so far.
Been a while since I have seen you around.
Yeah, lots of stuff happening in my life right now, lots of changes. I’ll be back to blogging and reading blogs by next month though!
I once saw this woman waiting for a bus with long naturally grey/white curlly tresses. She was wearing a short grey skirt and jacket to match, long beautiful legs and generally a gorgeous woman. I really admired her. I thought to myself “hot-damn” if she walked into a board room I don’t think anyone would notice the colour of her hair…if they did it would be out of admiration. Power suit, power hair. However, right now when I go natural I look like a sea-hag and so I don’t think I’m ready yet to pull it off. I haven’t acquired that “whatever it is” yet.
A sea hag!! Oh my, that made me smile. If my entire head of hair was grey, then it would be different. I am balancing on “whatever it is” and the desire to be as beautiful as the women on the hair color box.
I’ve actually started to cheat abit and use Sun-in when the grey’s start to come back…than I can push it a bit. I don’t mind a few stray’s. Tim used to pluck them…and that f’in hurts. I wish mine would grow with some beautiful natural sweep…eh? But at 45 I have no interest in looking older. So this is one area I will succumb, for now. I say, colour the hair for now…and develop the hotzpah that one needs for the day when we’re ALL grey.
Hotzpah! Love it! Yes, I am only 38 yet..As for beautiful sweeps..Not this chick!
Stay natural. For 99% of people dyed hair looks very dyed, even the most “natural-looking” of dyes, and though people may say it looks nice, it means you aren’t you as you REALLY are. Also, grey hairs means aging, and aging means wisdom. In most cultures older people are revered for their wisdom, experience and knowledge of having come thus far through life – so as a vote, I’d stay stick with they grey. We all love you for who you are, so should everybody else, grey and all
Thanks..:) Au natural is winning.
My hair went grey in splotches at first, so I dyed it to cover those up. Then when the grey roots were everywhere I decided it was time to stop spending my kids inheritance at the hair salon. I’m really happy with my all-over grey hair now – it’s so much softer and flattering than any dye job I ever had. But it’s such an individual thing – if you look and feel better without the grey, then that’s what you should do. Just don’t end up being one of those little old 80 year olds with jet black hair. That is truly horrid.
Yes..and bright red lipstick. You know the ones..lol
I say do what makes you comfortable. I also say that there is nothing wrong with grey hair. It’s just a natural part of growing older. But then, I probably don’t care as much as I should about how others see me. I keep clean and have decent clothes. If others don’t like how I look…not my problem. Yes, yes, I am a grouchy old lady! lol
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being grouchy or old. I am grouchy and semi-old.
I’ve been wondering where my greys have been hiding. I think I’ve earned a few over these last three years. I was kind of looking forward to flaunting my “experience”, but now I don’t think I am. I don’t want to look as old as I feel.
That is exactly how I am starting to feel. Screw it, it’s not like it’s Botox or some shit.
Nope. Hair color can be changed easy-peasy.
I have a few ‘sparkly bits’ as my hairdresser calls them
I get my hair foiled and tinted every 5 or so weeks. Whatever makes you happy that is the only answer Merby. If you are ok with what you have/are …go with it… if you truly aren’t make an appointment or get hubby to the rescue! xxx
Being a guy, I don’t worry as much about the gray. My mantra each month is should I shave or should I grow. This is in relation to both the hair on my head, shaved many years ago for ease; and my facial hair which is more an extension of self. I find myself in this very spot this morning as my Monchichi hairdo begins to sprout over my ears.
So since we are usually so limited in what we can do on a daily basis, I say follow your heart, follow your soul and follow your energy.
Let’s see, there’s bright red, pumpkin orange, a nice deep blue or purple, hot pink…. Not a big fan of green, but if it works for you, I say do it!
aaahhh Merbear I say do what makes ya happy. If you are feeling old and think dying your hair will help you to feel better about yourself then by all means woman do it!!! I found my first white hair at 17 – pure snow white – not gray… I am now in my early 40′s and if I let my hair grow out its natural colour I would be over half white (and it is really noticeable as I am a dark brunette) plus it would likely age me 10+ years just like that…. Miss Clairol is like my best friend… (OK maybe not quite but close enuf)…
Mine too! I am doing it tonight actually. Enough of this crap. Mine is actually more white than grey as well, and I am a natural dark brunette so..doesn’t go well together. I was 27 when I found my first one..:)