One of the ways that I get through each day is by employing the art of distraction. It is one of the most useful DBT skills that I learned as an outpatient and inpatient at Oakview, located in lovely Middleburg Heights, Ohio.

Figuring that I have a cornucopia of shitty illnesses that oftentimes causes my brain to go unpleasant at a moments notice, being able to keep said brain occupied is important. It is a daily battle, stopping myself from going to the dark place.

The dark place is um….dark. Lots of spiders.


I may be doing better than I was last year, but I must remain diligent at all times. Recovery is a long road, my friends. I am still fragile. I can feel the depression (it never truly goes away) trying to take over again and the occasional suicidal thought flit by.

Which scares me so much, I can’t even find the words.

Luckily, I have a few things that help me to distract myself from the icky thoughts that fibromyalgia, depression and anxiety causes. It also helps with chronic pain.

(Yes, yet another list post! Maybe I should make KOBAF a list blog!!)

The Beatles

Watching their videos makes me happy. I can get lost on YouTube for hours. Just listening to their music brightens my mood.

We’d love to turn you on.

Yes, that was indeed a drug reference.

Watching Netflix

I try to steer clear of watching a series, because I have a tendency to become obsessed. I usually just watch a documentary or a movie nowadays.



I’ll read a book now and then, but most of the time I am reading interesting articles I find on Facebook or posts written by you guys.

Watching Porn

I just added this to see if you were still paying attention.

My Support System

This consists of my two best friends, Cheryl and Alice, my mother, my husband and my dogs. It is a nice feeling to know that these people (and canines) are there for me, always.


And of course, all of you who comment (or even if you don’t.) I feel blessed to have so many great friendships from around the globe.


I am back to almost being able to write something every day, even if it’s just something silly. I love my blog and I don’t see myself leaving this little piece of the web anytime soon.

I’m also starting (very slowly) to write a novel. A brief synopsis, it will be a fictional story of a woman in an abusive relationship. She will end up victorious in the end, I know this much.

Do you use distraction? If so, what is one of your favorites?